Queerness and Transness make me nostalgic often. I shared recently how Janelle Monae was the most amazing person I ever saw back in 2010 and continues to make me feel seen. I also shared in an interview how the extremely problematic show a Shot of Love with Tila Tequila was the first time I learned the word bisexual and felt like I could finally articulate who I was.
There were so many times in my adolescence where I saw myself. Even if the character or artist never say it out loud I felt the warm embrace of representation. Even if the character wasn’t explicitly “out” I felt like I was looking at me. Here’s a list of some of the places I felt like I saw me.
Khadijah James (Honestly the entire cast of Living Single)
Khadijah James and the entire cast of the 90’s sitcom Living Single. Khadijah James Had Lots Of Love Interests On ‘Living Single’ and Seeing That Gave This Curvy Girl Way More Dating Confidence. Khadijah James is the leader and was played by Queen Latifah who has been dating her partner, Eboni Nichols, for over a decade now.
3. Chandler Bing
Honorable Mentions: 00’s Nicki Minaj and Marceline/Marshal Lee
Each of these characters or artists shed their light on me in so many different ways. From rapping about eating pussy, being “big boned”, being “tomboyish”, being bisexual, to being gender fluid or trans, they all tugged on baby K’s hearts strings and made me feel less lonely and weird. Even as an adult I still take time to acknowledge when I feel like this. I recently interviewed Avi Roque (They/Them) who voiced Raine Whispers in the Owl House on my podcast Absolutely Not! and felt the same feelings. I noticed while making this list that I did not have a lot of queer representation that looked like me growing up. I’m glad the youth of today have a lot more chances to see someone that look like them and to feel just as seen as I did.
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